才步入下半年不到半天就见证了两件惊人的事情。。。
午餐时分，与友人在咖啡店共餐叙旧，当谈到兴高采烈时，有一位学院女生应该是要上厕所而经过我们的桌子。突然间她碰撞了前面的桌子，友人望了一下就说不对路，快扶着她。我也望了她一下，看到她痛苦的表情，心里还以为她刚被男友抛弃。话一说完，她就扑向我们的桌子昏厥过去了。
友人赶紧扶着她，因她的冲力，使到桌上的一杯咖啡乌倒泻，而向我喷发，我的本能反应，就是急速的向后弹起。幸好没弄脏我的衣裤，也幸好后桌无人。之后就赶快让那女生躺下在地上，友人帮她松解了裤带，抬起了她的双脚，另一个女子帮她涂抹风油。过了几分钟后，她才苏醒过来。幸好她吉人天祥，没事后又继续上课去了。
用餐完后，就在回返公司途中，看到了一辆消防车和几辆警车，一群人围观着一辆驱动车。因为车里的司机座座位，有大片血迹。据同事所见，那个印裔司机一下车就跳下海。过不久就在海中央求救，所以同事才拨电给警察局求救。
刚读到一段新闻报道，原来是一对印裔情侣在车上吵架，男友失控持利器刺伤女友后，把女友赶下车，接著畏罪飙车逃走，途中连撞3人及一1间花店，再到大咯巷跳海自杀！
所幸，女伤者在民众协助下，及时送往槟城医院抢救。不过在新闻截稿为止，警方及消拯员还在旧关仔角海域进行搜索行动，男子的生死未卜。
这个天昏地暗，细雨纷飞的中午，一昏一跳的事件，真的让人惊心胆跳。
Thursday, July 1, 2010
下半年啦
时间过得真快，转眼间又是步入下半年啦！
回顾过去的上半年，自己做了什么东西？完成了什么任务？想了又想，杀时间也无法奉告，但自己心中有数吧。
不过对于下半年来说，就有几项任务有待完成。那就期待年终总结时再来做个胜利报告，好吗？
大家加油！
回顾过去的上半年，自己做了什么东西？完成了什么任务？想了又想，杀时间也无法奉告，但自己心中有数吧。
不过对于下半年来说，就有几项任务有待完成。那就期待年终总结时再来做个胜利报告，好吗？
大家加油！
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
life-to-life
This morning I woke up and realized that was a heavy rain outside. I walked to the balcony and stood there for awhile. Then I talked to myself: “OK! It is fine. It is raining now and outside is too wet for me to go out. I better stay back at home.” Actually I was trying to give myself a good excuse not going to gym.
What a lazy man here. Haha…
Then, I made a cup of hot Vico for myself. Lie down on a chair and started reading a magazine. Inside the magazine has a few interesting statements. Here there are...
“… am I doing what I’m supposed to be doing, am I who I’m supposed to be?”
Have you come across this kind of question before? What is your answer? For me, I really cannot answer this question due to my blank mind.
“… if you know a loved one is going to die, besides spending time with them, is to be sure that you say everything that needs to be said. If you wanna say I forgive you, I love you, or let’s forget about what’s happened between us, say it now, get it done now and make peace.”
Yes, I used to practice this in my daily life. This is because I don’t know whether tomorrow or the next hour is I still exist? That’s why I am always treasure the time that I have and cherish all the things that surrounding me in every moment.
“… if you spend time with people, and share and give of yourself, then when you’re gone, you’re not totally gone. You live on inside the heads and the hearts of everybody you’ve touched.”
This is true. That’s why we always miss and remember somebody’s has already gone.
“… if you take the truth of most faiths, purely practiced, they’re really not that dissimilar. There’s a belief in something bigger than you, a belief in helping people who are lesser off than you, and a belief in treating people the way you want to be treated. It’s all pretty much the same.”
I agreed. Respecting, understanding and helping each other are what humanism is. This is how peace created. This is what we supposed to do in our daily live.
Before I end my sharing today, I would like to share the follows Ikeda sensei’s guidance.
“We live in an age where opportunities for profound life-to-life inspiration are all but nonexistent. Idle amusements bring only fleeting pleasure. They produce neither profound inspiration nor growth for one's life. By contrast, Buddhism exists to enable people to realize personal growth and to improve their lives. Buddhism is always rooted in the reality of life. It is the wellspring of wisdom for bringing harmony and happiness to our families, local communities and society at large.”
What a lazy man here. Haha…
Then, I made a cup of hot Vico for myself. Lie down on a chair and started reading a magazine. Inside the magazine has a few interesting statements. Here there are...
“… am I doing what I’m supposed to be doing, am I who I’m supposed to be?”
Have you come across this kind of question before? What is your answer? For me, I really cannot answer this question due to my blank mind.
“… if you know a loved one is going to die, besides spending time with them, is to be sure that you say everything that needs to be said. If you wanna say I forgive you, I love you, or let’s forget about what’s happened between us, say it now, get it done now and make peace.”
Yes, I used to practice this in my daily life. This is because I don’t know whether tomorrow or the next hour is I still exist? That’s why I am always treasure the time that I have and cherish all the things that surrounding me in every moment.
“… if you spend time with people, and share and give of yourself, then when you’re gone, you’re not totally gone. You live on inside the heads and the hearts of everybody you’ve touched.”
This is true. That’s why we always miss and remember somebody’s has already gone.
“… if you take the truth of most faiths, purely practiced, they’re really not that dissimilar. There’s a belief in something bigger than you, a belief in helping people who are lesser off than you, and a belief in treating people the way you want to be treated. It’s all pretty much the same.”
I agreed. Respecting, understanding and helping each other are what humanism is. This is how peace created. This is what we supposed to do in our daily live.
Before I end my sharing today, I would like to share the follows Ikeda sensei’s guidance.
“We live in an age where opportunities for profound life-to-life inspiration are all but nonexistent. Idle amusements bring only fleeting pleasure. They produce neither profound inspiration nor growth for one's life. By contrast, Buddhism exists to enable people to realize personal growth and to improve their lives. Buddhism is always rooted in the reality of life. It is the wellspring of wisdom for bringing harmony and happiness to our families, local communities and society at large.”
Thursday, June 24, 2010
职业倾向
I found that is a right time for me to attend the “Talent Development” training course, which was organized by my company. Actually, this kind of training course needs to practice from time to time. As we know that people tend to change from time to time. Today our need might not same as after few months.
One day before sit in the training, we were advised to complete our prework, which was answered all the 42 pages questionnaires. I was burning the overnight lamps in the hotel and finished the prework at 1.30am. :P
Although this one day training was a bit rush for us, but so far we have covered the following topics. There were TOP (talent, organization and passion), Career Best, Distinctiveness; Career Orientations; Four Stages of Contribution. Throughout this training I was getting to know myself more.
I was impressed by one of the topic, there was a Career Orientations. Based on the questionnaires result dated as 22/6, I have 2 dominants, there were Balance and Challenge. According to the facilitator, he advised me to look into it seriously and think carefully which one wills more close to me. Due to these two are conflicts among themselves. Seem like I have double characters. Haha… That’s why this afternoon, I tried the questionnaires again. It came out with a different result, but I surprised that no changes for Advancement and Security. Finally, the result is showing me that my dominant is situated at Balance. This is the truth of me.
If there is a chance, I wish to share this “Talent Development” with you, my friends.
Friday, June 11, 2010
空中堵塞
周五，清晨四点起身，洗澡准备一切后，五点向机场出发，趁搭最早的一班机到吉隆坡参加员工会议。一下机就赶去趁搭KLIA快铁，然后又转搭德士到公司。会议一完毕就跟同事一起吃午餐，之后进行对话。因为要赶下午4点班机，我先离席。
回程也是匆匆忙忙，趁搭地铁，然后趁搭KLIA快铁，要坐半小时路程才到机场。等了一个钟头，终于可以登机，坐在那又满座又闷热的飞机里半个小时，喝了冻水也顶不住，连空少和空姐也不耐烦了。因为KLIA的系统出了问题，飞机不能起飞。因此大家又被请回到等候厅，在那里又等了半小时，才再次登机。一想到机仓里的闷热就怕了。真的如我想象的在里面又在等待飞机起飞。因为飞机大排长龙，一架接着一架轮流起飞，结果轮到我们的飞机都半个多小时了。即使从窗口望出去，外面下了豪雨，但里面确实闷热到令人想吐。
总算起飞了，那冷空调起了作用，人也平静了下来。也许太累，不知不觉的睡了。等我张开眼时已到了槟岛上空，真令人兴奋，那里知道，飞机还要在上空盘旋，因为同时有多架飞机要上升和降落，所以又得排队了。用了将近半小时才可以安全降落。看一看手表，已是黄昏6点多。转搭德士回家，到家是都快要7点了。
原本一个美好的周五，就这样白白的浪费掉在这无谓的匆匆忙忙、等了又等的来往机场和耐人寻味的空中堵塞里。
回程也是匆匆忙忙，趁搭地铁，然后趁搭KLIA快铁，要坐半小时路程才到机场。等了一个钟头，终于可以登机，坐在那又满座又闷热的飞机里半个小时，喝了冻水也顶不住，连空少和空姐也不耐烦了。因为KLIA的系统出了问题，飞机不能起飞。因此大家又被请回到等候厅，在那里又等了半小时，才再次登机。一想到机仓里的闷热就怕了。真的如我想象的在里面又在等待飞机起飞。因为飞机大排长龙，一架接着一架轮流起飞，结果轮到我们的飞机都半个多小时了。即使从窗口望出去，外面下了豪雨，但里面确实闷热到令人想吐。
总算起飞了，那冷空调起了作用，人也平静了下来。也许太累，不知不觉的睡了。等我张开眼时已到了槟岛上空，真令人兴奋，那里知道，飞机还要在上空盘旋，因为同时有多架飞机要上升和降落，所以又得排队了。用了将近半小时才可以安全降落。看一看手表，已是黄昏6点多。转搭德士回家，到家是都快要7点了。
原本一个美好的周五，就这样白白的浪费掉在这无谓的匆匆忙忙、等了又等的来往机场和耐人寻味的空中堵塞里。
Wednesday, June 9, 2010
newfeeling
A muggy and boring Tuesday night, I read a magazine and served with a cup of cold green tea. I would like to share with you one of the article that impressed me.
This article is writing about a five year old kid had a conversation with his father when they reached the school gate in his first day of school.
The father was carrying the son on his shoulders and he felt the son little hands grip his hair, and the son became very quiet. The son whispered: "Dad, it's all funny in my tummy, and I feel a bit shy." The father asked if the son was afraid. "Nah!" the son said, "I'm not scared, I've just got 'newfeeling'."
Newfeeling! This word the father had made up years earlier and had talked about with the son was helping him cope with the biggest day of change in his young life so far. The son told himself he didn't feel "scared", he just had "newfeeling". Because he knew this was a normal and natural thing to feel.
The father was carrying the son on his shoulders and he felt the son little hands grip his hair, and the son became very quiet. The son whispered: "Dad, it's all funny in my tummy, and I feel a bit shy." The father asked if the son was afraid. "Nah!" the son said, "I'm not scared, I've just got 'newfeeling'."
Newfeeling! This word the father had made up years earlier and had talked about with the son was helping him cope with the biggest day of change in his young life so far. The son told himself he didn't feel "scared", he just had "newfeeling". Because he knew this was a normal and natural thing to feel.
In this article, the father has the conclusion as the following.
1. Life is change.
2. When you refuse to change, you don’t hold onto the past: you lose the future.
3. Tell yourself is a “newfeeling” when you encounter something challenged and nervous or even scared.
Referring to this article is reminding me one of the Ikeda sensei’s guidance as the following.
“One of my favorite Argentine poets, the great educator Almafuerte (1854-1917) wrote: "To the weak, difficulty is a closed door. To the strong, however, it is a door waiting to be opened." Difficulties impede the progress of those who are weak. For the strong, however, they are opportunities to open wide the doors to a bright future. Everything is determined by our attitude, by our resolve. Our heart is what matters most.”
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
电影感想
刚过去的周末，看了两部电影，一部是来自东欧，另一部是属于东亚国家的。看完这两部电影后，让我有点震撼。虽说是一部电影，但戏如人生，也是现实的写照。
第一部是说出了为得到周围的祝福，为爱坚持到底，要取得到完美的结果，就要承受排山倒海的压力，经历坎坷困难的过程。当然故事的结局是皆大欢喜。也许这些结局只会在电影里出现，回到现实生活不易见到。但我不否认这实事的存在，遗憾的是至今我还未曾遇见过。观察周围的环境，体会身边的朋友，实事还是残酷的。
要顾及父母的尊严，还是要尊敬孩子的决定？保住父母的尊严，就要牺牲孩子的选择。让孩子两者选一，也是一件残忍之事。试想一个是有养育之恩的父母，一个是陪伴终老的爱人。选择父母，就得失去心中所爱，留下人，但心已不在。相反的，选择爱人，就要终生背负着大逆不道、忘恩负义的罪名。两者都是背叛之罪，爱一个人是多么的无奈。
相同的，要是父母坚持以威严压迫之下，逼虎跳墙，难免孩子会选择离开，这样身为父母的就得承受痛失孩子之痛。也因为父母出自于疼爱孩子心切，通常父母都会依自己的意愿，人生经验而替孩子自作主张，布置一切。这样不只解决不了问题，反而是弄巧反拙，将事情变本加厉、复杂化。如果严重一点，也许会导致孩子两者都放弃，那么就呜呼哀哉，也许会白白断送一条人命，或许让孩子永远承受着精神煎熬，终身遗憾，留给孩子挥之不去的阴影。
试想看，要是一对真心相爱的恋人，如果得不到身边至亲的祝福是多么的残忍。不管生活上是多么的幸福美满，不能与至亲分享这份喜悦是多么的美中不足。如戏里的父母，最后能秉持着开明的态度，试着了解，聆听孩子的心声。然后勇于接受、尊敬和支持孩子的决定。身为孩子的也一样能体会到父母所付出的一切。这会使到孩子更懂得珍惜，加深了孩子对父母的感恩和尊重。父母要的是确保孩子未来的幸福、快乐。而孩子也能为自己的决定而负责任。父母和孩子都能达成双赢的局面，何乐而不为呢？或许瞎说容易而实不易为。但这是实事，无可否认。
而第二部一开始就描述着两个青春貌美的好朋友，持着各自的理想寻爱而去，创造各自完美的爱情故事。然而人到中年后，一切都起了变化。接着故事就叙述他们中年后的状况。
原本一对恩爱至老的情侣，因其中一个爱侣先逝世，而留下自己一个人，孤独终老。杀时间感到彷徨无助，过去习惯有爱侣在身边，现在得独自过活，仿佛失去了一只翅膀的鸟儿，再也不能翱翔，失落感导致最后患上了老人痴呆症。
另一个因患上绝症后，经不起药物的折磨，而自暴自弃，也因这样造就爱侣有了外遇。病痛的煎熬，又自觉失去了以往花样年华的魅力，在这样心灰意冷的情况之下，选择了回乡待毙。因此再次让一对好朋友重逢。
一个抱着等待死神的迎接，一个持着久别重逢的喜悦，两人虽然相见欢，但却是不一样的心情。即将离逝的朋友就对好朋友千依百顺，而患上老人痴呆症的朋友就误把好朋友当做是逝世的爱侣。好朋友之间因此互相扶持、相依为命。故事就到此结束。
不管过去是如何的青春活力，那么的美丽动人，还是国色天香，但随着岁月的流逝，谁都逃不过生老病死的阶段。人始终还是要面对这实事残酷的挑战。至于要经营一段至死不渝的爱情，谈何容易，这是要经得起岁月的考验，历经一些荆棘途径，很多时候在几许风雨之后，会选择半途放弃，也许这是缺乏耐心所致。
一对恋人，通常先离逝的那一个会是最幸福的，因为不必受牵挂之苦、思念的煎熬。不过留下的那一个会是最坚强的，因为了爱侣而努力、勇敢的继续活下去。生命本无常，由不得你我去控制，既然如此，当两个人能有共识的在一起时，不管它是短暂还是长久，就要好好地珍惜这段爱情。这就是所谓的掌握自己的幸福，切记不要把遗憾留给自己。
第一部是说出了为得到周围的祝福，为爱坚持到底，要取得到完美的结果，就要承受排山倒海的压力，经历坎坷困难的过程。当然故事的结局是皆大欢喜。也许这些结局只会在电影里出现，回到现实生活不易见到。但我不否认这实事的存在，遗憾的是至今我还未曾遇见过。观察周围的环境，体会身边的朋友，实事还是残酷的。
要顾及父母的尊严，还是要尊敬孩子的决定？保住父母的尊严，就要牺牲孩子的选择。让孩子两者选一，也是一件残忍之事。试想一个是有养育之恩的父母，一个是陪伴终老的爱人。选择父母，就得失去心中所爱，留下人，但心已不在。相反的，选择爱人，就要终生背负着大逆不道、忘恩负义的罪名。两者都是背叛之罪，爱一个人是多么的无奈。
相同的，要是父母坚持以威严压迫之下，逼虎跳墙，难免孩子会选择离开，这样身为父母的就得承受痛失孩子之痛。也因为父母出自于疼爱孩子心切，通常父母都会依自己的意愿，人生经验而替孩子自作主张，布置一切。这样不只解决不了问题，反而是弄巧反拙，将事情变本加厉、复杂化。如果严重一点，也许会导致孩子两者都放弃，那么就呜呼哀哉，也许会白白断送一条人命，或许让孩子永远承受着精神煎熬，终身遗憾，留给孩子挥之不去的阴影。
试想看，要是一对真心相爱的恋人，如果得不到身边至亲的祝福是多么的残忍。不管生活上是多么的幸福美满，不能与至亲分享这份喜悦是多么的美中不足。如戏里的父母，最后能秉持着开明的态度，试着了解，聆听孩子的心声。然后勇于接受、尊敬和支持孩子的决定。身为孩子的也一样能体会到父母所付出的一切。这会使到孩子更懂得珍惜，加深了孩子对父母的感恩和尊重。父母要的是确保孩子未来的幸福、快乐。而孩子也能为自己的决定而负责任。父母和孩子都能达成双赢的局面，何乐而不为呢？或许瞎说容易而实不易为。但这是实事，无可否认。
而第二部一开始就描述着两个青春貌美的好朋友，持着各自的理想寻爱而去，创造各自完美的爱情故事。然而人到中年后，一切都起了变化。接着故事就叙述他们中年后的状况。
原本一对恩爱至老的情侣，因其中一个爱侣先逝世，而留下自己一个人，孤独终老。杀时间感到彷徨无助，过去习惯有爱侣在身边，现在得独自过活，仿佛失去了一只翅膀的鸟儿，再也不能翱翔，失落感导致最后患上了老人痴呆症。
另一个因患上绝症后，经不起药物的折磨，而自暴自弃，也因这样造就爱侣有了外遇。病痛的煎熬，又自觉失去了以往花样年华的魅力，在这样心灰意冷的情况之下，选择了回乡待毙。因此再次让一对好朋友重逢。
一个抱着等待死神的迎接，一个持着久别重逢的喜悦，两人虽然相见欢，但却是不一样的心情。即将离逝的朋友就对好朋友千依百顺，而患上老人痴呆症的朋友就误把好朋友当做是逝世的爱侣。好朋友之间因此互相扶持、相依为命。故事就到此结束。
不管过去是如何的青春活力，那么的美丽动人，还是国色天香，但随着岁月的流逝，谁都逃不过生老病死的阶段。人始终还是要面对这实事残酷的挑战。至于要经营一段至死不渝的爱情，谈何容易，这是要经得起岁月的考验，历经一些荆棘途径，很多时候在几许风雨之后，会选择半途放弃，也许这是缺乏耐心所致。
一对恋人，通常先离逝的那一个会是最幸福的，因为不必受牵挂之苦、思念的煎熬。不过留下的那一个会是最坚强的，因为了爱侣而努力、勇敢的继续活下去。生命本无常，由不得你我去控制，既然如此，当两个人能有共识的在一起时，不管它是短暂还是长久，就要好好地珍惜这段爱情。这就是所谓的掌握自己的幸福，切记不要把遗憾留给自己。
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